unconscious projection is something that I see everywhere: a person, with unmanaged, unacknowledged — hence UNCONSCIOUS — experiences > issues, applying and assigning that unconscious debris to another person or persons.
the first rule of unconscious projection is that we are only as sick as our secrets. whatever we hide, manifests in our unconscious and projects onto the outside world — typically a person who has absolutely nothing to do with our actual debris, but an easy target for that debris. this way, we do not have to actually deal with our debris (false).
I once had a friend, she was a new friend, for maybe about a year. this was a number of years ago. she was living a complete lie, in every sense of the word. but, she had fooled herself enough, to the point where she felt “safe” around me in the beginning. basically, she thought she could hide her truth from me. while I am far from perfect, I put myself — wholly — “out there”. at first, people will often confuse my authenticity with kindness or weakness. it is neither: I am simply willing to be who I am, even if it hurts or makes me vulnerable. vulnerability is a key point to finding personal power, and so few people in my experience understand that. anyway, back to the friend. as she got to know me, and saw how deeply and openly I lived in my truth, her truth aka unconscious mind began to peek its head out. her truth was not something she was willing to contend with on ANY level. she used psychic studies and woo-woo crap to “cover up” her fake romantic relationship, her lack of any social connection or close personal relationships, and her actual intentions with others. as I was still making strides in my ability to spot sickness (if we are taught to run TOWARD sickness, or sick people, we will do it until we die a million deaths over it and finally stop), it took me a bit to see how her unconscious territory manifested itself over and over again. as time went on, as physics would suggest, we were two different energies trying to share space (any space: emotional, cognitive, physical, or energetic), and that does not work: the more aligned energy will have to drop to match the unaligned energy, since energy flows from top to bottom. as I reached healthier and healthier places within my own unconscious field, I literally could not support her density. of course, I did not see it that way though. I went bumbling along, trying to maintain the sick friendship. I began to notice her erratic and inconsistent and — passive aggressive — behavior with me. it did hurt. it will always hurt when we are nothing but kind to another human, and that is not only not reciprocated but used against us in some way. however, I was really out of the zone of internalizing much of those kinds of things anymore, thankfully, so there was no opportunity for me to partake in her sick unconscious (some were absolutely conscious) games with me. what was happening, on a psychological level, is that I was unwittingly reflecting back her inauthenticity, just by being myself. since she was not honest with herself, I became the easiest “target” for her unconscious debris. when she could not provoke me with her inconsistent (and quite frankly, spiteful passive aggressive) behavior, such as inviting friends of MINE places and leaving me out in a really conniving fashion, she decided to ghost on me. but here is the kicker: she decided that I had ghosted her, and played victim! let me point out, for starters, that this friendship in the first place ONLY worked when I reached out to her. if I did not reach out, we would simply not talk. which ultimately became the case. which, by that point, was just fine with me. she had taken all that she could from me anyhow, and could not live in truth. very simple conversations that seemed to trigger any truth in her would leave me with the silent treatment for days on end. that said, I was her greatest projection screen ever! and, historically, she had actually done this with every single female friend prior: she had built them up, put them on pedestals, and when shit got real (as in she actually had to be transparent and honest with herself because that is what close relationships/friendships require!), her unconscious created a sick backstory and decided that I was all of the things that SHE was in her unconscious field.
thankfully I have not had a personal facebook account in a long time, because it is full of people vomiting their unconscious territory: we are in a prime/perfect time and opportunity for this to occur! whatever it is that we have not dealt with, or will not deal with, we will find projection screens for it. until…we really hit a rock bottom and have no one new left to blame. then, the cycle continues. or not. we are living in one of the most active blame-game eras I could ever imagine seeing at this point in time. people are literally going out of their way to find any scapegoat they can, to not deal with the debris that they can not access. but the thing is, the debris isn’t going anywhere: it is piling and piling and piling.
so, what can we do for ourselves and for the collective as it relates to our individual unconscious territory? for my part, I attend therapy consistently. to be honest, it’s not a whole lot of what I do not already know, but having an objective and clinical individual with decades of experience support me in monitoring my own barometer is freedom. I NEVER want to be like the behavior I describe in this post. it is one of my worst fears. each day, I take personal inventory and make a list of my 1) thoughts 2) feelings 3) words and 4) actions. I ask myself if the 4 things align, or not. if not, then where/why am I lying to myself? what am I gaining from that (or not)? am I willing to give up one of my psychological or otherwise “coping” mechanisms?
how do we know if we are lying to ourselves? 1) we feel like shit. we will spiral around and around, feeling like shit, and looking for desperate ways to escape the shitty feelings. we will blame other people who have nothing to do with our core issues, but make for fantastic projection screens for those issues. if we are not self-accountable, we will simply repeat the same patterns over and over again because we refuse to take self-inventory. 2) we repeat the same patterns over and over again. for example, I’ve had to ask myself, why I am so attracted to helping sick or broken people (in my personal life, mainly). I discovered that part of my child self — this is in the UNCONSCIOUS territory — still feels guilty and indebted to helping sick or crazy people in general. what ends up happening is I become a target for their un-owned and unconscious sickness. one of my handlers recently said to me: “you can not do this anymore. you can not hire or help people who are supposed to be helping you”. there are great examples of people running empires who need people like that around them constantly, because there is something stuck in their unconscious field (like mine) that is vulnerable and needs work. I hope, one day, to be more aware of my pattern of attracting sick people and wanting to fully renovate them when, in fact, they do not want to ever be healthy. I’m actively working hard on this pattern. and I am happy to make myself vulnerable right here in this post by saying it. it is what it is. thankfully, with regard to my actual consulting and healing work, my unconscious territory rarely rears its ugly head. there is no way that I would be working at the level that I am, with some very regulated and powerful people, if I were to be in an unconscious state there. and, actually the more powerful and successful the person is whom I work with, the less opportunity I find for my unconscious mind bringing in even a shred of my old/ceasing pattern. 3) we desire to blame other people. when we blame other people, we give up our power to change. this is different from holding people accountable and moving on. big, big difference. blame is active and ongoing. accountability is decisive and allows for us to evolve. 4) we dislike someone “for no reason”. enough said.
as we observe others around us, especially in this day and age, we can so easily see who lives in a state of non-stop unconscious projection: there has never been a better time to observe sick people. they are the online trolls, the blamers, the dwellers, the debate-obsessed, the chronic complainers, those with active addictions that they have no intention of properly fixing because it soothes their sense of unconscious reality. of course each of us unconsciously projects, somehow, somewhere, and at some point. but the point is: how do we manage ourselves and look within to move forward without injuring others in the process because we are too weak to address ourSELVES?
our current climate illustrates a complete collapse of time and space. you may want to consult Neil deGrasse Tyson on this one! what this looks like and feels like, is every piece of ourselves — past, present and future — coming up for *review and integration*. the past is not the past. it is the present, AND the future. unfortunately, or fortunately, that is NOT up for debate with the universe at this point of our planet’s position in the galaxy.