special thanks to my holiday hair wizard, Yannhou, pictured here beside me
this offer is inspired by a special young woman I met earlier this year.
for December only, I will offer something that I have never done before: ONE HOUR sessions. these are available to former patients only, and if you keep up with my materials you will likely understand why (it takes me roughly 20 hours minimum to fully explain and process someone’s life crisis or crises and help them integrate all of the moving pieces associated with understanding such – hence, making radical shifts. doing just one hour with someone I have never met is not only not reflective of my work, but it would likely be jarring for them in a way that they did not expect nor understand and it would take away from all of the reasons that I do this work in the first place. this, is why I have NEVER been able to do just one hour with anyone new, not even 10 years ago. there is just too much to explain).
the format for this is obviously different, but you can prepare all the same as it will “hit” you the same way (both before and after the session) as a longer and more intensive session would. you know this because we already worked together. for example; I go to therapy weekly. I believe that the being of my therapist is far more than “just” a therapist. he has a special energy, and I can FEEL it the night before we meet for our ONE HOUR session. it then reverberates for days, as I go over the notes that I took during our work together. one might say that he, too, has inspired this brief offer I am putting out for the month of December, because my number one concern used to be “am I giving enough?” to each person I saw. in many ways, this man has reflected back all that I give…just by being who HE is. it is through my own therapy work with him, that I began to more fully understand not only my gifts, but HOW it is that what people have said about me could be true…in other words, I have been able to see how transformative just one hour can be in the presence of a certain individual. it has taken me a long time to fully understand my core value (for reasons expressed ALL throughout this blog!), and how that value corresponds to my work with others. I no longer feel “maybe I didn’t give enough”. and from that important transcendence, here we are for December!
keep in mind that we will be on a clock. it will truly be just one hour. you may spend that hour with me however you like.
in addition, another reason that I am offering this is because I now have my shooting schedule for the TV Series I have created. I will send out a separate update about that. the brief is, I wrote a series about two years ago (when my world began crumbling down, yet again), based off of the six eBooklets that I wrote in 2015. a lot has transpired in the last two years. it is now ready for liftoff. in terms of specifics/logistics, capital/funding will be complete and we will finish shooting the series (six episodes) and sell it to the likes of HBO or an equivalent or better if it exists. with that said, I will be truly shifting gears for a time to focus on my media (I am writing my first big book, and have other creative projects in the wheelhouse). as I have stated continuously over the past two years, the days of me seeing multiple people per day or week, and now even per month, have certainly ended (for MANY reasons! not just my own evolution, but then again all outside events correlate to our personal evolution). I can’t believe the way that I used to work (sometimes 100 hour weeks!), but I loved every minute of it and that work and time during my life is a huge inspiration for the series. with all of this in mind, I will be excited to see familiar faces and rub hearts in person — beyond that, I have big plans! which I hope you will be part of, and will keep you updated on.
and on THAT note, please subscribe to the subscription link on the home page on the far upper right corner. I lost most of my subscription list, and I don’t pull mailing lists from my former email (also, do not email me! read my former posts to stay updated on that front), nor do I want to spam people each week with updates that they did not sign up for. although I have THOUSANDS of emails in my possession, my work is not about the business of sales or promotion — it is about the business of attraction. so, the only way you will know what is going on is if you sign up for the newsletter (be sure to check your spam! because it WILL go there), or consistently check my social media pages (all of them, in case one of them “gets deleted”). you may also follow my Instagram here.
to schedule a ONE HOUR session with me, call 917-985-1221 and leave a voicemail stating such. this is for December ONLY, and for former patients only. I can’t wait to reconnect with you this holiday season!
I’ve addressed this topic more times than I can recall; in my blog, in sessions, in countless conversations with all kinds of (amazing) people — rejection is protection, always, in every case. it just depends upon our ability to perceive the protection dynamic…
for starters, I understand first-hand what it means to be my own worst enemy and take things personally when it comes to being “rejected”. I might venture to say that, many times in the past, I created rejection scenarios to impose upon myself when they didn’t really exist to begin with. what created those scenarios was my interpretation of events. in order to understand my interpretation, read this blog from the beginning and you will find countless self-share examples that explain my experiences and subsequent wiring that had to be altered in order to live out who I AM. instead of who I am NOT…
I understand how the brain protects itself — by interpreting rejection as actual rejection when it is not such — in order to “keep the entire body and brain alive” by repeating patterns that at one point DID ensure survival. but what happens when we move closer to detaching from the once-necessary pessimism that literally kept us alive? well what happens is, we encounter “rejection” to the MAXIMUM…to kill off a dead-end belief or entire belief system. in this space, we are challenged with the ultimate rejections, and in many cases, a series of rejections. they feel real. they don’t feel like protection. they ARE protection. every time…
the very fact that we can not perceive the beauty of rejection as a metaphor for incredible and divine protection is evidence that our self-image needs to change. we ALL face (perceived) rejection. each and every one of us. it’s what tethers us to unhealthy patterns that we repeat in business, home, social, and beyond. if we dare look beneath the pattern, which many of us simply will never do, we find our deepest fear and ASSOCIATION with what we consider to be “rejection”. and when we get closer to unhinging – or rather our soul declares we must unhinge – a belief that is holding us hostage to a past situation, we attract “rejection” aka protection to the most ultimate extreme. it is in the sheer seeming ABSURDITY of said “rejection” that is our first and main indicator that perhaps…we are being protected.
as we get closer to ending a pattern, rejection will accumulate to such a degree that we are so humbled that there is just no more fighting it. we almost do not care about the feelings we once associated with the perceived rejection, because we are bowled over with the absurdity of such. have you ever been in a position in life in which the only available remaining response to your position was laughter? no matter how life-threatening, how dire, how horrendous — laughter was the only option because it felt like a big joke and there is no way that God could be that cruel? this is the turning point of recognizing rejection as actual protection. and it is in this space that we actually RISK changing our mind about what is happening. because, we are the common denominator…and, what if there is something “right” about us, that is at play here?
what is “right” about us will scare off the demons. literally. demons might present THROUGH others, and their actions, versus actually BE others. it’s important to recognize that someone’s behavior is not necessarily who they are, but that it is indeed either helping us or killing us with little room for negotiation between the two motives. and in that behavior, we may struggle to negotiate or understand their conscious intention versus their unconscious intention…creating illusion around the core point of our experience with another person or situation because INTELLECT is separate from the unconscious mind. what is “RIGHT” about us will seem to completely be honored by intangible forces in a particular situation yet COUNTERED by the logic of it. that means that, “this makes no sense!!!!! I can’t get my head around it!!!!”, but this also means that, “there is something so strong, too strong, too repetitive and loud about what is happening here, I must consider trusting it”…
what is “right” about us will exaggerate the experiences that we have with others that would be considered “rejection” experiences…to the point in which we actually turn the page and risk seeing the truth: that we are being protected.
I’ve had this conversation more in the past 9 months than ever before in my life. my personal life presented SO MANY experiences over the past fiscal year that appeared DAUNTING — I felt that I was absolutely being rejected by the entire Universe, as well as specific individuals who did not honor or respect me. some of these people I had looked up to as semi-guides, helpers, friends, — those I thought would be along for the ride with me for life with regard to my work and soul’s purpose. I was wrong — or rather, God did NOT want me to ride with certain people anymore. and it wasn’t just people. it was ALL KINDS of situations in life in general that had expired. doors were slamming and locking in my face. and as much as I know, and have been through on this front already many times over in the past, one can never be prepared for their entire life to change for the better…because all of the swampness comes up and OUT before it does. we see it leave. we watch and feel it leave. we grieve it. and we assign it unfortunate meaning, until we do not assign it that meaning.
in the past fiscal year I’ve faced more difficulty than ever before in my life, with “rejection” — aka PROTECTION. as I’ve had many rounds with this notion already, I did KNOW what was happening. however, at a pinnacle moment around the fall of last year, I briefly lost sight of the positive aspects of protection that were being sent my way by dismantling ALL KINDS OF THINGS AND RELATIONSHIPS. it had reached comedic proportions. the literal front door of my apartment building LOCKED ME IN one night — as in, the door lock broke, locked me in, and there was no out. although I was experiencing one of the most difficult periods of my life, I marveled at the symbolism gifted to my by the Universe: I was being PROTECTED. the Universe said “you may not walk through this door again”. and so, as life does, I experienced the ultimate forms of protection in all kinds of ways: bad behaviors from others, screw-overs, broken trust, disappointments, and shocking loss. and at the end of it? I emerged as a different person. because I had no choice left but to understand this, again, as PROTECTION. at the peak of my brokenness, I wrote this post on betrayal and it still resonates in my gut when I re-read it.
this morning I had two conversations with AMAZING WOMEN who are recently climbing out of “rejection” and now able to see it as PROTECTION. as I always say: NOT ALL ENERGY IS EQUAL. it doesn’t matter what something looks like: we know not what resides underneath that 3D surface. there are all kinds of amazing reasons for all kinds of terrible things. and in my conversations today I was reminded double-time as to why I went through some of the very most ridiculous shit of my life last fall and winter. it was fodder to help those also on the crux of that exact precipice. it was to ensure: not only am I better, lighter, happier as a result of my “rejections”, but I am GROUNDED as hell and literally not the same person I was 9 months ago. doors that did not serve me, in all forms, were closed FOR me. there comes a point in time in which we must CHOOSE how to view these disappointments versus think we can intellectualize why things happen…this is the human trap — figuring it all out instead of LIVING IT ALL OUT.
I find that the most INCREDIBLE people I know have gone through the most incredible “rejection” aka protection to land where they are (in great places that many people covet). the hazing associated with understanding how to interpret rejection as protection is legit. and it is reserved for the few who are able to shift their consciousness, move out of victim consciousness, and literally choose a new life. a lot happens before we can perceive rejection as protection — a lot happens on internal psycho-emotional levels. and you can read about that process in other posts of mine, scattered throughout this entire blog. but I wanted to share today, AGAIN, about the raw fact surrounding “rejection”: IT NEVER IS.
recently I’ve had a ton of type A people aggressively approach me because they see things that they think they “want” or can “take” (see my eBooklet 3 – what they really want is intangible, they just have not figured that out yet!) — and I already know the drill. I know that they are going to come at me hard and fast, pitch me a sales pitch to convince me that I should do xyz (so that they can benefit, only it’s presented as a mutual benefit), and then find out that they CAN’T actually get xyz thing…because you can’t absorb or steal someone else’s consciousness. and in each of these encounters, they run away when they can’t find the “benefit” for themselves…mostly because they are not sure what they are running toward in the first place. they see a shiny penny and they aren’t sure how that penny shines, but they want/think they can glean the secret formula. these types of people always see the outside of me/my work, and never the inside of me/my work. these are not patients of mine, these are real-world folks. all the ones who think strategically but NOT intuitively and believe that they can monetize me…except they have no understanding of what is being monetized — clearly, that is where *I* come in and how I get paid. it’s not a trinket I can sell to someone. and in all of the many situations I’ve experienced with others who thought they could cherry-pick off my tree for free and actually gain something, I’ve had the choice in each instance as to how to perceive what’s happened. as typically what happens when someone realizes they can’t get something for free, they depart. departure can feel like abandonment or rejection. it’s not. it’s protection from people who do not have best interests in mind because they don’t understand a certain energy. and my default is now set to the point, thanks to having gone through this in SO many categories of life, of absolutely bypassing any emotion or internalized personalization of what’s occurred. it’s never rejection anymore. I never feel bad about it. it’s always protection. and when we have something unique, something important, it’s “of course” that not every random Joe off the street can or should understand our commodity. in this sense, we are being protected from wasting time, energy, and so on. and I am grateful to be in a place where there feels absolutely nothing “personal” about this and is certainly not even close to rejection in my interpretation. I see it a mile away, watch it play out, and smile at how it has not a shred of “rejection” essence to touch within me. it just doesn’t exist in me anymore. this is a 180 from how my life began and how I continued it for years out of “survival” and outdated agreements with my mind-adrenaline.
allow people to disappoint you. screw you over. hurt you. offend you. steal from you. THEY ARE IN YOUR LIFE TO SHOW YOU WHAT YOU ARE NOT, if only you can stop committing to what they symbolize for you. what they take away with them, is your old wounds. it takes a full magnet of darkness (that person or situation) to pull out the fragmented marbleized darkness hanging out within your psychological, emotional and physical astral/spheres. when the fragments that have been assigned to you by others who have nothing to do with your path are removed by others who also have nothing to do with your path, you can understand protection. this is where the ultimate freedom, and even unconditional love for all things, exists.
rejection is protection. always. you’re better than you think. probably an anomaly. a Unicorn. a treasure. in that sense why WOULD the world understand you right off the bat? you’re being asked to understand the WORLD. allow yourself to be assassinated in all kinds of ways in order to re-discover, or discover for the first time, who you actually are. protected.
I will start with talking about something that I talk about in every single session, workshop, or otherwise Healing Elaine® exchange. one of my vulnerabilities.
to preface this. one of the reasons that I did not continue to pursue my psychology degree (which was my major at Northeastern University) at University was that I did not feel it would allow me to be as vulnerable as I wanted to be with people. the reason that I wanted to be vulnerable with people, and continue to be, is because I find it gives them “permission” to do the same and then change. as a true quantitative slash artist hybrid, I walk the line between both human designs. the artist in me wanted and wants to express my core more strongly than the quantitative helper in me, in order to help others. this is why I landed outside of my major and “role” in life: psychologist. psychotherapist. psychiatrist.
as said hybrid, the artist in me breaks down the walls and barriers that would not be suited for a traditional therapeutic environment. and so hence we also have this blog. I will say that yes, despite my vulnerabilities which can make me feel very trapped at times, I do feel extremely free. and it is simply because I am not owned. not on paper, and not in any other way. this is something I would not trade for the world. freedom. it is why I have not accepted investment offers for my business as of yet. it is why I have not done many things. and yet I work hard to be aware when I am working from fear versus the conscious choice to not be a sell-out. the value of freedom is so important to me, because I never had it when I was young. my entire being did not belong to me. I digress.
back to freedom. being free allows me to express my vulnerabilities in a very raw and unveiled fashion, and the one that I wanted to share today (again, you can likely find variations of my sharing of it in other posts) is my fear of success. no, I don’t have a fear of failure. I have a fear of success, that would be quickly followed by a fear of failure tied only to that very success. this, I understand, is a widespread or common problem for people. and we all have different stories and experiences that back it up; stories that are both individual and collective in nature. mine comes on the heels of the simple fact that every success I ever had was followed by a catastrophic and terrifying event. as well as absolute radio silence about my achievements unless it suited/benefited someone else. and so I would like to share my experiences, feelings and process around my particular vulnerability revolving around success that I follow to manage this “dis-ability”.
let’s go back in time. when I was fresh out of college, after one of many rough patches courtesy of completely external factors, I was offered a “dream job”. I had pink business cards and they had my name on it. my role was to run around and collect money from big entities like real estate developers and fashion brands and place them in a magazine. yes, it was ad sales. I was using a foreign language to conduct all meetings, I was living in what felt like paradise with beaches and palm trees, and all of my interests seemed to collide in that one period of time for me on that one pink business card. although I had suffered unthinkable trauma that year between family and a very close friend, and a convicted felon landlord who spied on me constantly, I was ready to take on the world! or so I thought. I must admit, there was something about those Barbie pink business cards that really made my heart race. the color, to me, meant that I was about to finally “make it” in life! the way that I got this so-called dream job goes like this. leading up to the job, everything horrible that could have happened to me in a 6-month period of time did, and at the end of it I was out of a job. instead of applying online, I went out to the hottest nightclubs and events wearing my resume on my shirt. this landed me this job. I drafted a business plan for the magazine along with my intentions, and the job was mine within a few weeks. the only problem was, it felt too good to be true. and, it wasn’t too good to be true. I was just used to never getting what I wanted. and so the very thought that something could work out, in my favor, AND be all of the things that I wanted on paper, was…well, it sent my heart racing. I couldn’t sleep for about a week. now for those of you who don’t resonate with my past or the trauma that came before this example I am sharing, I will say this: imagine the absolute unknown, and that it is terrifying because it negates everything that you have ever known. imagine that an example of this might appear totally normal/benign in your eyes regarding the experience of someone else, but that it is very real indeed: the threat of something good happening and what comes with that. remember the time that Oprah gave the homeless man a whole bunch of money, bought him an apartment, counseled him, helped him get a job, and so on? and how a year later he was back on the streets because it was most comfortable? yes. this is how trauma works. it takes years to push through. this is why we can not have shame over our vulnerabilities. they each look different, and for each one of us. and for me, those pink business cards were a real trauma. I was a young woman, attractive, I finally had an exciting job with decent pay, I got to dress like Shakira circa 2002 for my job yet still be treated as a professional, and my business cards…pink. to me, this job represented all of the things I had ever wanted in life — basically my sovereignity– and I got to use my minor in modern languages on a daily basis. I was a rock star! and I couldn’t sleep. because for the first time in my life, I had something that I wanted…that no one else had wanted for me, or had claimed for me…
during this period of time, like Murphy’s law would constantly present in my life, a biological “care taker” came down to steal the show. there was a major incident followed by a medical emergency which landed both of us in the hospital within days of one another, and my life went back to “normal” again. depressive. chaotic. broken. dramatic. scary. completely without support. the way that it impacted this dream job was sort of like a slow burn. I clearly wasn’t able to be present, and my worst fear had occurred again, just like it had earlier that year — my success was not about me. it would never be about me. it would be about someone else, who would either take it or ruin it for me. each time I got on my feet, I was knocked over with pure force. I should have known better. but I was still a kid. a kid, living as far away from chaos as possible, but chaos would always find me – at any cost.
the reason I talk about the pink business cards is that the color pink really meant something to me. it was my favorite color as a little girl. it seemed to be this most fantastic and “dreams can come true” color, which, for whatever odd reason, meant a lot to me. it reminded me of Barbie or something, and the philosophy that “you can be anything”. since I did not receive those messages in a healthy way, I found this permission through my art, creativity, and playtime as a child and young adult. when this trauma of having and losing my dream job (which was really just a basic, not terrible life, by most people’s standards I imagine) happened, that color seemed to bleed all over the place, and the beautiful pink business card with my name on it is something that serves as a symbol for not only that time in my life, but for important imaginative times in my life. it would be a long time before I could find the metaphor for a pink business card again…it would not be until I started Healing Elaine®, in fact. Healing Elaine®, something that, finally, no one could ever take away from me. HE is my pink business card now.
fast forward. you can imagine the years of processes I went through, before the above story, and after it. our vulnerabilities are always a work in progress. and today, another shred of this vulnerability of mine, the sheer fear of success, was revealed. now this may sound like a life sentence to some, who may think “man that really sucks, you actually have to wake up every day and put all of your effort into one foot in front of the other for something so stupid that takes me no effort to do? I’m sorry, that’s awful”…but you know what, if it’s not one thing, it is another for us. we are all challenged in different ways. it’s called relativity. and believe me, this is just one of many of mine. and I share it to give you permission, if it, or something like it, resonates with you.
today I woke to a phone call from someone lovely who I worked with many years ago. the way that I stay in touch with people from the past who I have worked with is via remote sessions (they can be booked by calling the business line by the way — they are 2.5 hours total), occasional workshops, and when I hire folks I’ve worked with for various things. I love to build from the inside out in this way. anyhow, during the phone call, and it could have been a message for this person as well, I was alerted to the ways in which I still make myself so small. the ways in which I still settle, despite what the world may perceive about me from the outside. I do this still, because, unconsciously, I fear imminent physiological death and destruction. every few months and years I make MAJOR strides. and then I plateau. and then the cycle ensues again. and I do not mind it. and each time I reach new contrast, or a new mountain peak, I am reminded (again) that every one of our vulnerabilities is a process. there is never a destination. now, more on my vulnerability of fear of success…
one of the ways in which I have both consciously and unconsciously chosen to deal with this fear is by challenging myself with a fearful action on a daily or weekly basis. this may be as simple as answering a phone call that scares me (or that I have an assumption or intuition about one way or another), or sitting down to complete a task that seems “tedious”, like a business plan, that could actually take me further and make my dreams come true. I have to sit and think about whether I am using my intuition, or my fear, at all times. and that’s fine. I welcome it. one of the unconscious ways that I have “chosen” to deal with this fear is the fact that I am 100% certain God will not let me not be extremely expansive with my being. this is evident in the undeniable, and daily adrenaline rush of purpose that I feel in my veins. it’s something I can not get out of. if you have this, you will know what I am talking about! if you do not have this, it doesn’t matter — there is always an unconscious way in which you are being challenged or will challenge yourself when you are sick of being “stuck”.
the biggest and most SUBconscious piece of my fear of vulnerability, sits on the heels of being afraid that no one will like me if I am successful. how ironic, right? living in the age of complete media whores who will do anything to be seen, noticed, given attention. but this particular fear goes way, way back. and when we notice a fear like this, particularly around success, we have to take that string and pull it all the way back to the beginning. I sit and write my fears: the real ones, and the ones that PROBABLY won’t happen. and even if they did, so what? for me, I still struggle with this idea that if I am successful, I will die – because I will be killed. perhaps not physically. but through so many halting (and criminal, on so many levels) experiences around what should have been joy and pleasure of personal success, my mind body and spirit were trained to HALT. don’t move. don’t breathe, even. do not breathe! I still hold my breath…a lot. the idea that I will die if I am “too successful”, is very visceral in my body. and I work on it every single day.
in order to “survive” the “threat of being successful from the outside world”, I have made myself small in many ways. when my phone would ring off the hook, particularly when HE was first peaking about 5 years ago, I was careful not to return “too many calls” at once…because that would mean that I would “make too much money”…and “someone would find out”…I’m serious, these were real fears. nearly conscious. but not totally conscious, or I would have confronted them. instead, I was given a series of shitty circumstances to confront them.
my modern day / today fears still center around being “too much”, “too successful”, “making too much money” “having more than just my very breath”…and I see how my unconscious mind will work to accommodate what lies just beneath the surface for me. right under the conscious mind is that bridge between the trauma that we can not remember in entirety (and probably thank God for that – our brain serves to protect us until we no longer need to be protected), and the daily shit that annoys us about ourselves. consciously, no, I am not afraid of success! and clearly, I am consciously NOT afraid of vulnerability. because here we are. but in that territory of the unchartered…the basement without a light…the creatures still crawl up with their pink business cards and meet my conscious mind. and it is in between the two realms of psychological thought that I constantly negotiate.
to me, being successful, consciously, means that I can give others permission to do the same. and I do do exactly that. it’s what I get paid for. I also get paid for the unique processes that I use to get people beyond their hurdles. to me, being successful, also means imminent death. this is on the deepest and most unconscious levels possible. yet of course, I am conscious that it is there. and when my unconscious mind alerts my conscious mind to “danger”, that I might be incredibly successful, my subconscious mind comes up with all kinds of stop signs for me. the stop signs look real. they look like pink business cards, sometimes. and while it is painful to know that someone with so much on the ball (me), with so much potential, could still be stopping themselves to make themselves small so that they are “safe”, I find a real beauty in this tragic reality. the beauty is that I will transcend it. and the beauty is that I have no issue with sharing myself in a way that makes other people who struggle exactly with the same, either in specificity or theme, feel safe enough to recall, acknowledge, and address their vulnerability.
with all of this said, consciously I’m on fire with regard to what I want. but I continue the labyrinth of the hidden mind, reminding me that horrible things will happen if I am a great success. and the funniest part about all of it is, there is nothing I can do to stop the Universe’s destiny for me; my biggest fear and weakness, born from experiences only, has become and continues to become my biggest intention and strength. this is how we transcend evil. because what I dealt with was evil on all levels. having things taken from me that no one had any business taking and claiming as their own. and all the while, the paradox of the entire process itself, is a true beauty. this is the labyrinth of life!
some related updates here pertain to past and prospective work with patients…the person I spoke with today was concerned that I was over-booked and would have no time for them for a remote session. I do have time right now, for past patients only (no one gets a remote session unless they have had a traditional or pop up session, first). most of the remote sessions that folks booked at the tail end of last year have been used. so I am booking them again this week. I am also offering a couple of pop-up house calls for former patients only, which include a house clearing. this is something I have done recently on a fairly 911 basis, and it has been beautiful. as I get more organized with my time, it is allowing me to make space for some of these remotes and pop-ups — just during certain times only, because I am in a flux with other projects that can take a strong direction quickly, and there may be long periods of time during which I get suddenly and subsequently blocked off/out and will not be able to offer a remote or anything else. as for pop-up sessions for those I have never seen, stay tuned for the announcements for such. I am not sure if/when I will make another pop-up offering. you must also read both of the pre requisite books in my About section prior to inquiring. these are my general updates for my offerings beyond my TEM and PE focuses/launches (which I am very excited about!).
I hope this post was helpful on a variety of levels.
my entire life I’ve been fascinated with psychic readings. when I was little there was a woman named Miss Cleo and she had a number and I would call it and get in trouble for racking up the phone bill. there were other numbers too, 1-900 numbers, and I enjoyed calling them. for example
my entire life I’ve also known things that I couldn’t possibly know, often being punished for knowing things that I didn’t even realize were true versus my “imagination”. once when I was 8, I got upset with my sister and I told her that if she wasn’t nice to me I would tell her friends she wet her pants that day. my mom got very upset and told me “how could you embarrass her like that after she had to leave school today for wetting her pants, no one needs to know why she left”. I had no idea she actually left school because she wet her pants, but I guess…I did? little seeming Freudian slips were and still are the norm for me in everyday life. I have to be especially careful when socializing. last year I went to hear a friend play music and while engaging with his friends in attendance whom I had just met, I casually mentioned to one of them that he might want to do xyz after the jaw surgery. he looked at me first with curiosity, and then with fear. I hate it when that happens.
I do not call myself psychic. recently a news outlet asked me if they could use that word and I said no. I don’t like the word. as it relates to MY work in particular, I feel it has a really negative connotation to it. and I don’t relate to it in the same way that others do, nor do I place it on some throne like many people do. “psychic” or “witch” does not mean one has special powers over ANYONE else. it also does not make someone better, or better-principled (in fact usually it does NOT) than anyone else. as we move into trend-ville of all things “psychic”, we completely lose meaning of the real meaning – as humans tend to do when they use ego to divide and conquer, or compare, by using certain words. and it annoys me, quite frankly.
when one is authentically and abnormally psychic, they generally do NOT want these qualities or “abilities”. I know of no true authentic overly psychic person who is jazzed about feeling and seeing so much. they prefer to hide. I don’t believe personally, for me, in training or “learning” psychic things; and yet, I DO support those who do. does that make sense? there have been plenty of people who have had a genuine interest in acquiring certifications for such and there are certainly respected individuals out there who offer such along with support. I’ve even sent folks, on recommendation, to certain individuals to get their psychic or xyz training certificates. so while I feel conflicted over the use of the word and, clearly the “art”, I do support anyone interested in pursuing something that assists them in assisting others – what I don’t support is the trendy ego that others use to promote something that so few of us actually understand from a core spore point of origin. and back to wanting these “abilities” — I would do anything to not have to feel so much, “know” so much, all of the time. I repressed tons of this natural state during my years of heavy socializing, and contrary to my peers, socializing would take me days to recover from. it still does. no matter who the people are. that’s another subject along the lines of empathy. but, “psychic” if you want to call it that, or knowing things and taking them in, is non-stop work. it’s not a totally normal life and it can feel very isolating.
although some people think this “ability” is something to be coveted or accoladed, I don’t. and the reason is that, like all things, I believe “psychic” is relative. “psychic” isn’t some rare gift from God, because that would have to depend upon how those gifts are used. and they are not to be flaunted or used as benchmarks for defining one’s “power” or influence. nope. the word “psychic”, for me, is two things; it is 1) a pre-disposition that someone was given at birth and 2) a byproduct of how much someone works their CORE, and their INTEGRITY. there is that word again: integrity. and by integrity I mean integrity to one’s self, first and foremost. for most of us, this is a huge challenge. so then if we combine 1) and 2), we have an equation. the first part of the equation is relativity — however sensitive aka psychic we are, is relative to the rest of our life. we will have trade-offs. it’s not simply some gift. for example. Beyoncé has trade-offs. influential, otherwise deemed beautiful, and “have-it-all” people deal with RELATIVITY. perhaps things you nor I would or could ever handle. and so we would not choose it. a highly sensitive person is given the same trade-offs per relativity. sometimes this is extreme abuse in childhood. sometimes it is something else that is unthinkable to us as to how we would ever navigate. the second part of this equation is free will — or integrity. relativity plus integrity equals the kind of “psychic” you would want to hear from in the first place. the main thing about 2), the free will aspect, is that however xyz “psychic” lives their personal lives is the very filter via which your reading will reflect back at you. if they are muddy, the reading will be muddy. if they lie to themselves, your “guides” or their “guides” will lie to you in the reading. these are things that a “psychic” will not have conscious control over because they can not spiritually bypass the work. and there are then psychics who give you a clean reading because they wish to steal your free will, or, they are not evolved enough to know how dangerous stealing someone’s free will actually is. yep, there are lots of conundrums in the world of the glorified “psychic” notion that we see splattered everywhere nowadays. and I can promise you, that no, thousands of people did not wake up as “psychic-healers” overnight in the past few years. this is simply called trend, and it’s overdone.
so now to the reading portion of “psychic” or being a so-called “psychic”: there are also TONS of (“psychics”) people with these experiences and abilities, and they do not identify themselves. they have worked 1) and 2) of the above equation, to the best of their ability. they would never think of coming out of the closet. for many reasons. some of them are C-Suites. some of them work in politics. lots of them look totally normal, like your everyday human. they don’t want to be obvious, as their cloak is their ordinary life. some are schoolteachers, some are authors, and some are folks who live the ultra simple life, totally beneath the radar, because they remember other “times” in which their public gifts came with a lot of flak, and they just don’t care to utilize them in the same way at this point in time. the point is, “they” are everywhere. and “they” exist, because the past-present-future exits. huh? what I mean is, if you look at the study of time and space, we are always on the continuum of past-present-future depending upon our DNA signature as well as personal healing work/therapy and our point of focus. we are constantly an array of potentials, like a weather pattern. IN ADDITION, and this is the way I generally see things, we are all things that we have ever been and ever will be. for me, it’s like looking at a person and always seeing their highest potential. seeing what they have always been, and ever will be. but, if they are not willing to work with 1) and 2) of the above, their fate is up to them. when I see someone who is hardcore working 1) and 2), that is how I know for certain they will step onto their path on this physical lifetime continuum. stepping onto one’s path generally won’t happen for the spiritually or emotionally or the physically or psychologically lazy. then again, I’ve met folks who were literally struck by lightning and almost died, and this was part of their life map and now they are in purpose. because we are constantly working with infinite timelines, which is really like one, long life (just incorporating various deaths and rebirths in physical form), we can choose to be our “fate” now, or later. this can be a very important choice depending upon our purpose.
when someone reads you, there are contingency factors as pointed out above. I give big props to people who put themselves out there and are willing to call themselves psychics, when in fact, they actually are. when you actually ARE something, saying it is quite a battle and one can suffer for a time because it can feel like admitting something very sacred and private. so, please let me be clear in saying that for those who admit it because they truly are “psychic”, I support you. the next thing about being a “psychic” is that we are ALL evolving more and more toward truth. if you ask me what is my definition of the word psychic? I actually say: TRUTH. in order to be “psychic”, we must be willing to see the truth. it may not be the truth we want to see. we may not know why we see it. but we see it. I wrote about this a bit in my blog post about how we fail in life because we want to be liked. I’ve been there. I’m not there as much anymore. but you will see what I mean in that post. when I’ve told people outcomes that I see and feel in my core, I’ve tried to explain that no, this is not coming from an opinion. this is why I avoid discussing politics. the hits that I get are not opinions, but I see what is happening and why. I poked my head out ever so slightly regarding 2016 and people couldn’t get their head around how I “knew” without a doubt. I have plenty of “predictions” which I call knowings, for the future, but I tend to reserve them for myself. why? people are afraid of what they don’t understand. and part of my goal in discussing what is “psychic” is to dispel this fear around it, like it’s some super-power that only certain people have, and they should be bowed down to. nope. for me, psychic means getting as close to YOUR PERSONAL TRUTH as possible…therefore accessible to and by all timelines/realities…therefore seeing the “future”.
when we get as close to our personal truth as possible, we are less likely to be fooled by OURSELVES, for one. for another, if we actually read with someone who has done and is doing their personal best to serve on a sacred life level, the chances of our “reading” being on point is more likely. there are, for sure, “psychics” who I believe are straight from hell, from the so-called devil himself. and they have been planted here to challenge us, to expand us. TO SHOW US CONTRAST. to test us to see whether or not we know ego from truth. to see what we are willing to rely on, or surrender our own power and control to. when we surrender our own power and control, for ego purposes (control), for sure we will suffer. we will likely get the “best” “psychic” out there who totally robs our free will, giving us all kinds of illusions to cling to without actually doing the work.
if you really pay attention to the equation that I present above as 1) and 2), you will know how “psychic” readings work. just because something “doesn’t come true”, doesn’t mean you read with a “bad psychic”. it can mean many other things. and the more in tune you are with yourself, the more you will understand WHY. we place so much power aka blame and responsibility, outside of ourselves. all of the time. and we are being taught to stop doing this. BECAUSE WE ARE ALL POWERFUL. don’t let a subject that you don’t know a lot about, scare or intimidate or even overly entice you. sure, there are many people who are excellent at reading energy, and these are knowings that were assigned to them at birth for different reasons. there are many people who choose, with integrity, to follow these knowings and pick up certifications or learn how to harness what is intangible for them and feels so unharnessed. and on that note, I want to plug one of my former patients and friends, Maria Liu. she came to me over two years ago, and has grown leaps and bounds with the many infinite gifts she has — creatively, and “psychically”. one thing I see her practice time and time again, is personal integrity. this is key to life. she offered to read for me recently, and I was so warmed by how she does it. I would describe her readings as story-boarding — her way is her way, but the message is probably the same (if we are talking about truth here) as the next person’s, assuming they are also of truth…and that we, the person being read, is of truth. her website is alternativereiki.org, and she asked me to include this bio when I let her know I would be including her in my blog:
Maria is a certified Reiki Master, Integrative Life Coach, Eriksonian Hypnotist and Clairvoyant. She chose this combination of modalities because of how effective they are in working on everything from the conscious, unconscious, physical, emotional to the energetic. Maria’s intention is to guide you to fast positive transformations by offering you insight and tools to maximize your power. Her style is gentle, supportive, yet deeply cathartic.
Although Maria loves working with everyone, she is particularly passionate about working with other writers, creatives, empaths and intuitives. At present time, a focus of hers is on empowering other women.
I am always up for recommending and applauding intuitives or, for the sake of this post “psychics” (and just because I don’t personally like the word to describe my work, does NOT mean I judge everyone else’s choice of its use. words are particular. and they matter depending on the person). I can recommend Maria based on my own reading with her, which was really just a joy of an experience. I’ll write about that in my yelp review for her. I’ve spoken about folks I worked with early on in Manhattan, like Patricia Masters (RIP) who was an incredible psychic, and also Allison The Rock Girl who is now in North Carolina and does workshops and retreats.
when I first palpably entered the “psychic” realm back in 2002, I was afraid of it. I met some really “gifted” (they knew things – that doesn’t make someone gifted, gifted is how they choose to USE “things”) “psychics”, and they were terrible people. I was sure that I wanted nothing to do with that space. but, I realize now of course that I was being tested. I was shaking out old psychological patterning of having my space invaded, and I was gifted with having my space invaded so that I would finally learn to draw a boundary. it’s been a life of work on that now, since the intangible planes really are so curious. when I first learned about stones, it was through Allison The Rock Girl around 2008. I remember her handing me two stones at a fair, and I was terrified — my third eye pulsed like nothing I had ever felt, and so did my heart…in tandem with my third eye. I didn’t like feeling out of control, and it reminded me of why I stayed “away” from these things. I felt a little bit out of control! but, I also knew…there was truth in the stones, or at least the experience I was having by proxy to them. as my fear, like that of most people who might think of such a word when they hear the word “psychic”, lessened, I further embraced the path I had been on in the 90s and early 2000s when I would “work” on people energetically and not know what to call it. stones are still not my ultimate interest or anything, quite frankly I just find them pretty and I like the way they feel, but I will say that I have opened my mind to them after meeting Allison. all the same, they feel more like pet rocks than anything else and they are really nice to look at. so yes, I have hoarded many! and I enjoy using them in my healing sessions.
if you are thinking of having a “psychic” reading, I would say GO FOR IT. it doesn’t matter what someone calls themselves (psychic, healer, intuitive, tarot reader, lawyer -lol). it also doesn’t matter if you end up having a reading with a “bad” psychic, or an unethical one — because either way, your guides are STILL communicating to you (just like they do in the ordinary world, with ordinary people)! no one can take that away from you. in addition, when we go for “guidance overload” as Caroline Myss refers to it, we do get slapped. I’ve gotten slapped at times, when I’ve wanted answers as a way to control something in my life, before allowing it to play out, simply because it was a painful situation. of course I know who to call for “answers” when I can’t get them myself — but I rarely do it anymore (and rarely feel the need anymore). and when I have done it, I’ve been yelled at such as by my upstate tarot reader who does cold cases for the police. there are laws, even on the intangible planes — ok ESPECIALLY in the intangible planes — that we simply are not allowed to violate. this is why my main wish is for people to better understand all things “psychic”, and demystify much of the hoopla around this word — there is a whole other world out there, and we are all already in it. so, we might as well get to work in understanding it.
much lighter times are imminent as we close out cycles. I have to say, this particular Venus Retrograde has been wonderful for me. and after a very challenging fiscal year-plus, I really appreciated it! it also seems that all systems are a go as far as Capricorns (like me!) are concerned.
as we near the end of this cycle which closes on November 16th and goes direct, I have decided to continue offering pop up sessions to former patients (only). please call the business line between now and November 16th if you would like to schedule an abbreviated (pop up) session. these sessions will take place in a new private space with new amenities and one-of-a-kind healing accoutrements!
we don’t need a negative event to occur in order to clean house on ourselves or “uncord”. plenty of happy, healthy, fulfilled and balanced individuals practice uncording on a regular basis, including happily married or partnered significant others!
the whole point of an uncording is simply to know what is yours, and what is not. that’s all. and when we can see what is intrinsic to us and only us, it is from that vantage point that we may become greater versions of ourselves. then, we can re-open ourselves to the world until we again feel the urge, need, or even just regular practice to uncord.
so what are cords? I’ve written about them for years. many other people write about them. cords are like electrical wires connecting one human to the next. we may have them with literally ANYONE. we are energy embodying physical human containers. within those containers are holes or access points, also known as chakras. depending upon INFINITE factors (like psychology, karma, personal history and so on), our chakras absorb certain energy. and at different speeds. if we have particular emotional wounds that we can not clarify in our mind, we will likely attract the same match of energy to certain chakras on repeat until we “wake up”. I won’t describe the ins and outs of cording in this post (I do it in plenty of others). but I will talk about why and how and when to do a personal clearing.
there are many reasons we might want to clean house. for me, it is something I have to do CONSTANTLY in order to 1) attract the right work (CRUCIAL FOR ME) 2) perform the best work 3) dislodge karma that DOES NOT BELONG TO ME from my body, mind and spirit 4) know exactly what is mine, so that I can be the best version of myself and work on myself.
I absorb, very quickly, lessons and dark spots from others. I just do. something in my energy field either fills in the blanks for people, or it reflects directly back to them their dark spots. the latter is quite interesting in terms of the polarized responses I get from people. people have described my energy field as “filling in the blanks” for others, or filling in their holes. I imagine a stained glass church window that has been shattered on a sunny day. when we fill in the holes for others with our light, we make a trade. sometimes it’s not a good trade. sometimes it’s a karmic trade. often we have no idea what we are doing in the first place.
if we want to know what is ours, truly, what our core is, free from codependency with partners parents friends and even children, we uncord. many of us are too afraid to do this. because we are intrinsically codependent. we don’t know how to survive a day without talking to someone who fills in blank spaces for us. or we do, but we don’t want to. because we are spiritually and emotionally lazy. and so we have a rolodex of people who fill in blank spaces for us and we keep them on rotation. at the center of this rolodex is fear. some of us never want to know what truly exists in our core. we are afraid of our core, our truth. our shadow. do you know what your shadow is? we all have a shadow. shadows are scary. this fear keeps us trapped in an infinite unconscious cycle, and it will ultimately destroy us if we can never find our own food or fuel whilst shutting off the electrical currents aka cords that extend into the ethers and exchange ALL KINDS OF THINGS with other beings.
everyone we are close to, and the 5 people closest to them in any way, become us. it is unavoidable. I don’t want that, no matter WHO these people are. I don’t even care if I like them. I don’t want or need to have random energy stuck in me all of the time. and since it is unavoidable to take it on, I have to uncord to at least know what is NOT mine. I do this routinely. my closest friends or former patients “get it” and don’t freak out or ask me what is wrong. because they are generally healthy. if someone panics and freaks out on you during an uncording, it is a sign to leave that relationship behind completely. it means that that person was eating you up all day and night, whether they knew it or not.
I also uncord when things are not “right” in my life. if I hit the skids, or a low point somehow, I immediately detach from anyone and everyone. this is the healthy move to make, so that I might see the source of my condition. it may be inherent to a cycle my soul is in. or, it may be inherent to negative energy I am inviting in by proxy of someone around me and someone close to them. either way, these are both opportune reasons and times to uncord. without knowing what belongs to me, as a unique soul (though yes we are all connected, we do NOT all share the same karma! therefore knowing what is OURS is CRUCIAL), I can never move forward in life. without daring to know at all times what belongs to me, I remain like a broken record on repeat unconsciously moving through life. with no feet on the ground.
last night I spoke with a former patient who is uncording in general. it seems to be a theme as of late for many people who have reached out to me. and it is a current theme for me. right now, I am generally off the grid. I don’t want anyone’s thoughts, feelings or actions interfering with my life. I can’t afford it at the moment and I need to continue focusing to know what is what and where it comes from. this uncording I am doing may last a short time, or it may continue for months as it has for me many times. during my busiest times of work, I didn’t socialize for many months at a stretch. to some, that may sound unhealthy. but that is because they will never understand the scope of my work and couldn’t possibly. my work is my life, but my personal core is obviously my…life.
when I consciously decide to uncord, I do a few things. first, I stop having phone conversations. I stop meeting anyone in person. I avoid texting, like the plague. I keep all of my communications to the barest minimum possible — unless they are serving part of my uncording initiative. if you can’t imagine going a day or week without talking to people you rely upon daily or weekly, you may want to examine your 1) codependency issues or 2) core self. who are you, really? a tree, or a leaf, blowing in the wind, toward whatever comes your way?
the next thing I do when I clean house is take a couple of baths per day with pink salt. I’ll hold and wear ionizing stones that contain elements of the periodic table. since I live primarily in NYC, this is sometimes the closest I can get to nature. I will turn off music and distracting stimuli. I’ll take walks without music. I’ll work out more often maybe. I will pay extra attention to what I do listen to, or watch. what is the nature of my desire or draw to xyz thing?
I will sleep more than usual. when we sleep, our unconscious mind has time to process things that our conscious mind either won’t, or is too afraid to process. I’ll give myself this extra buffer in preparation so that I am not reacting to something but rather being proactive about what I want to receive. I will pray and meditate more than usual. I will ask for guidance as clearly as possible, and wait for it as patiently (a challenge of mine) as possible.
I will burn anything that feels ionizing. I imagine debris falling off of me when I do it. I will light a candle of intent, which is really just similar to prayer and asking for “higher self” guidance. there are many different physical traditions for “personal clearing” depending upon our culture, exposure, and belief system. do what feels right for you. you don’t need to purchase a clearing kit on amazon. make your own. and, above all, no potion or lotion can do the kind of work that your OWN core — body, mind and spirit — can do for you.
I will do all of the above until I feel clear. no matter what. if we have friends or acquaintances who can not handle the above and we need to do the above, then “losing” the relationship should be a risk that we are willing to take. when we uncord, everything that positively matches our “new” clean energy WILL return upon divine timing. for example. I have worked with couples (very rarely) who simply wanted to uncord from one another (and everything in their lives) in order to build a better relationship. there was no fear or codependency around uncording. this is a healthy relationship. after they uncorded, they found a stronger relationship in queue. this is inspiration for all relationships. whatever “falls away” or “falls away with drama” during an uncording is meant to fall away. if we are afraid about what others might think or do, then perhaps we should re-evaluate those exact relationships in the first place. fear is about control. we hold onto our fear to control others, actually. and when we attract controlling people, it is because we are actually controlling people ourselves.
if you are willing to see what is underneath, away from all of the noise and perhaps experiences that do not even belong to you yet you are hosting, you might be pleasantly surprised. depending upon HOW we are made (I am talking about our intangible fabric), we will actually absorb karma or dark spots for others without either one of us knowing. it is so important to know what is ours and not ours, so that we may progress in life. who and what could we be without the karmic experiences of our best friend, partner, child, or co-worker? probably more than we realize. because after we shake off what is not ours, only then do we have the ability to do the inner work that our soul is calling for. so that we may also then AUTHENTICALLY own what we have in our life. our career, our calling, our partnership, our whatever.
uncording is one of the greatest tools for personal growth and it is one of the greatest opportunities for personal happiness. especially with access to technology, it is very hard to be with just our SELF. and this is why people go in circles in life, never moving forward. they are in a constant addiction. to people, places, ideas, and things. get out there and try a day — or a week — or a month — or more, of uncording. whether you have a “reason” to, or not. with the upcoming full moon this week, I can’t think of a better reason to uncord and manifest.
all workshops will follow the same format as my former and traditional one-on-one sessions, in that there will be required reading before each one – Power Versus Force by Hawkins, and Dancing The Dream by Sams. the themes and structure of my one-on-one sessions will make up the entirety of my workshops, they will just be tweaked (and customized each time) to accommodate more than one person. booking a workshop protocol will exactly follow the same format that is written in the Aboutsection as well as my post on How To Book A Session. this applies across the board, to public figures as well.
January is the perfect time of year to take a step back, introspect, and look at your life to assess what aspects are working and what areas can be improved upon. It’s a great forced reboot.
If you know what needs to be done in your life to achieve your professional goals, keep doing what you’re doing. But what if you’re at a crossroads in life and feeling stuck? Should you start your own business? What are the risks of reinventing yourself? Or if you’re already an entrepreneur or creative type who’s temporarily lost their confidence what’s the best way to reinvigorate yourself?
More importantly with the endless self-help and professional development seminars available for entrepreneurs online who will happily take your money to tell you how to achieve success whose advice should you trust?
For over a decade Aryn Elaine, the founder of Energy Medicine & Reiki Therapy by Elaine, has discretely consulted with the world’s most powerful and influential people at their own crossroads including award-winning actors, politicians, doctors, entrepreneurs, C-level executives, artists, global investment bankers, and United Nations diplomats.
Elaine is a Reiki Practitioner, an Ordained Minister, a medical intuitive, healer, and energy medicine specialist with a strong sense for identifying blocks and blazing through them with her patients while collaborating with various doctors to bridge the gap between the spiritual and medical. Her sessions consist of intuitive consulting and energetic therapy (both in person and remotely) in an uncharted format specifically to treat those at a serious juncture in their lives.
“After years of ‘working’ on people without even realizing it I learned how to specifically channel my energy to help others,” says Elaine. “I was helping people to heal deep wounds, detach from addictions, and find the courage to pursue their wildest dreams. I operate from a very grounded and powerful base, and I use the power of intuition, experience, education, and healing heart energy to help change the lives of others. I dropped my clinical psych studies years ago because I didn’t understand the boxes. Now I treat successful psychotherapists and psychiatrists.”
The focus of Elaine’s work is to retrieve the unconscious debris of her clients’ psyches and piece them back together in alignment. She then helps to re-integrate these lost pieces of self through further conversation and Reiki healing treatments to re-process the truth of the unconscious mind—all of which create a new reality or a new lens for the patient to look through.
“It is the patient’s unconscious territory that I am able to spot a mile away, even the pieces that they have forgotten or dissociated from, and it is with this territory that we create the bridge between body-mind-spirit”, Elaine tells me.
As a successful entrepreneur herself, the foundation of Elaine’s work is to help people uncover their gifts to create the business of their dreams and help them see it through.
“More than half of the people I see leave their ‘day jobs’ within weeks or months and begin their own businesses or enterprises,” says Elaine. “Intrinsic self-starters are my biggest conversion. I would honestly say 90% or more of whom I see are born to work for themselves and are stuck in some ‘system’. They are working with me to find their purpose that has been in them all along (hence the healing of unconscious aspects). I have helped hundreds of people with various backgrounds start their own businesses”.
Elaine has consulted behind the scenes with some of the world’s most recognizable actors, thought leaders, and entrepreneurs so to accommodate the growing demand she is unveiling the Super Luxury Session, which is a 45-day immersive reboot that starts at $65K.
“I have contracted a supportive relationship and agreement with a 5-star and notably exclusive luxury hotel (in NYC) whose personnel understand first-hand my dealings as well as the nuances of my very personal session/program—this includes but is not limited to coordination with property security which is active 24/7”, says Elaine.
Since not everyone will have the opportunity to work with Elaine, I asked her for a few simple tips she would suggest for anyone feeling stuck and at their own crossroads in life.
Give When You Have Nothing To Give
People are at their computers all day and need to connect with other humans. Do a good deed face to face and pay it forward every day. Small or big. It doesn’t matter. It’s all about the intent and what that action could lead to.
Look To Those Who Inspire You
There is always someone to look up to who will light our way. When you feel down, defeated, or anything else negative, look to those who inspire you and tune into how hard their journey to “success” was for both inspiration and perspective.
Exhaust The Body and Quiet the Mind
If your mind is unsteady you will not be able to process anything especially big life changing decisions. Your mind is like a computer hard drive when you clean it out so to speak it performs better. When your mind is cluttered exhaust the body physically in any way you can. Yoga, Pilates, spinning, bootcamp etc. help move stagnant energy and releases hormones that make you feel good and help quiet the anxiety of the mind.
Watch What You Put Into and On Your Body
Pay attention to anything you put into your body. You are what you eat and you will match the resonance of what you put into your system. The same goes for what you put on your body. Chemicals change your physiology and alter your state. Try to eat as cleanly as possible and use products that are chemical free. You should also be mindful of who you spend time with, what you read, watch, and listen to since we internalize all of these experiences and match it.
For more information about Elaine and her work you can visit her website.